What Men Should Know About Women: Social Conformism and Subculture

One of the sentiments that pops up whenever America’s ongoing gender wars are brought up is, why don’t more women say something? After all, modern America’s culture does not benefit most heterosexual white women. Female happiness has been declining for decades.[1] Pop culture encourages us to party hard and view young, single white men as our enemies while ignoring the disproportionate amount of crime and chaos unleashed by non-white populations. Most feminist circles will instantly ex-communicate a woman who brings up interracial crime statistics. Modern feminism overlaps heavily with anti-white movements. White women are even told to sit back and let brown women “have their turn.”

Men who find it confusing that so many women remain quiet about this absurd situation need to remember that women feel a much stronger need to conform to social standards. Especially those of friends and classmates. The anti-feminist author Rachel Wilson has written extensively about this on her Twitter and in her published books.[2] One of her main points is that women who see through modern America’s dysfunctional gender relations often conceal their actual viewpoints due to fear of social ostracization. She has pointed out videos of young women being asked politically incorrect questions. Often one of the girls will start to say something “wrong” only to be corrected by a friend. Wilson calls this the “Sisterhood Effect.”

I’ve personally witnessed many examples of this. I have had female coworkers, relatives, and friends privately share opinions on topics like gender, feminism, or race that they would never say publicly. The power of social shaming is greatly weakened when a woman has the option of joining an alternate subculture that won’t shame her. Very few women are “loners.” Most women naturally like to feel like we are part of a community. We are also more prone to signaling our views rather than bluntly saying them. This means that if Nationalist politics went mainstream, there would be: 1) A surge of women jumping onboard for opportunistic reasons, 2) Women coming out of the woodwork who finally feel comfortable voicing their genuine feelings about living in a Multi-Cult Experiment. We are arguably closer to the latter happening than people think. As an example, there is now a minor trend on TikTok of white girls posting “never mix” memes and denouncing miscegenation. Many of them get 50,000 + likes and hundreds of thousands of views.

The “Never Mix” meme went viral before Shiloh Hendrix. It has also taken on some ethnic connotations (I’ve seen multiple Russians post counter-memes insisting they are more attractive due to being of mixed Slavic x Central Asian descent).

There has also been a surge in women signaling frustration with black behavior:

I am not claiming women are going to become as ethnocentric as men or that society is near a tipping point where millions of women embrace explicitly pro-white politics. I am merely pointing out that there are some women willing to signal a strong preference for white men and this will increase if the Dissident Right can form a healthy, alternative culture. Many women have been socially shamed and made to feel it’s “racist” to not mix. I have been told that – to my face – twice by Hispanics. There are some women who resent this. Anti-white propaganda about the supposed irresistibility of Black and Brown men should not be taken at face value. Race-mixing is common and it is a major issue, but there is also a certain amount of sexual propaganda meant to demoralize and dishearten white men.

Dating Advice for Right Wing & Nationalist Gen Z Men

If I were giving a male friend my own age dating advice, I would not encourage him to hold out for a woman who is ‘100% redpilled’ or as outspoken as the TikTok posters in the screenshots. Andrew Anglin went overboard with the woman-bashing (likely for monetary reasons, in my opinion) but he did have a point. Gen Z is polarized along ideological lines and most men are not going to find themselves dating a based e-celeb.

I think that a young man’s best bet is to cast a wide – yet still discerning – net and try to find a woman who is not a radical Leftist and who has a healthy lifestyle and an open mind.

There will be false starts. Women are pickier than men, although online dating statistics exaggerate this because women’s behavior online and in real life are different. I’ve witnessed this many times. I have had friends who would create dating profiles, get large numbers of matches, add a handful back… and then lose interest. They were less picky when dating men who had approached them in real life.

There are countless factors that an online dating profile doesn’t capture: pheromones, charisma, natural charm, voice, etc.

There are also red flags that I would encourage men to avoid:

• Septum piercings. This is often a way to signal that one is a pothead.
• Radical leftism, especially adherence to Marxist Third Worldism. No matter what a man believes about women ‘changing for an alpha’ – it is a bad idea to get into a relationship with a woman whose worldview is based off resenting you for being a white man. Not all leftists are equally bad. I’ve met some left-wing women who were easy going hippies and others who genuinely resented strong white men.
• Excessive alcohol use.
• Signs of a highly narcissistic personality.
• A promiscuous past. If someone cheats on a previous partner then their odds of cheating on you are much higher – my brother knows a young man who had an affair with a girl in a committed relationship and was deeply hurt when, a few months later, she did the same thing to him.

I would also encourage men to be careful about dating women who have a negative relationship with their own femininity. I’ve recently noticed a trend of young men posting memes about “tomboy girlfriends.” The TikTok Nationalist Scene made quite a big deal out of this a few months ago and a lot of them were saying they wanted one.

Those memes strike me as, frankly, a bit out of touch with reality. Women often use style, hair, and accessories as identity signals. The site Return of Kings created an immense outcry several years ago when it published an article called Girls With Short Hair Are Damaged [3] which, while controversial, discussed this tendency in detail. On a personal level, I was a somewhat tomboyish teen and have noticed a difference between women who naturally have stereotypically masculine interests and those who adopt a masculine identity as a trauma response (as something of a tangent, I am also the female half of a pair of fraternal twins – and there is evidence that we are more prone to developing stereotypically masculine opinions[4]).

I think a young man would have the best odds by: learning to approach women in the real world, pursuing women who are in touch with their femininity and not overtly anti-white, discussing politics in private and not immediately bringing up controversial views in public places, avoiding weirdos and cranks who drive women away, and taking time to learn how to read women.

My hope is that America’s White Advocacy movement will grow into a healthy alternative culture that draws in ambitious, psychologically fit young men and women. I want to see our people form happy relationships and network with each other. This will take time and a cultural framework that pushes away weirdos while mobilizing our better elements. Americans will need to genuinely analyze, in a dispassionate way, the cultural fault lines that have allowed hostile elements to cause severe cultural damage. We will need to continue pushing the Overton Window in a positive direction and delegitimize anti-white Narratives. It won’t be easy, but I think this is the most practical short-term solution.

Notes

[1] Stevenson, B., & Wolfers, J. (2009). The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness. Federal Reserve Bank of San Francisco, Working Paper Series, 1.00048.000. https://doi.org/10.24148/wp2009-11

[2] Wilson, R. (2021). Occult Feminism: the Secret History of Women’s Liberation.

[3] Tuthmosis Sonofra [Pen Name of Daryush Valizadeh]. (2014, January 17). Girls With Short Hair Are Damaged | Return of Kings. TheRedArchive. https://theredarchive.com/blog/Return-of-Kings/girls-with-short-hair-are-damaged.21841

[4] Miller, E. M., & Martin, N. (1995). Analysis of the Effect of Hormones on Opposite-Sex Twin Attitudes. Acta Geneticae Medicae et Gemellologiae: Twin Research, 44(1), 41–52. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0001566000001884

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